If you’ve been successful at having orgasms with your lover, you know that all the effort is so worth it. Still, there are occasions when you want to speed up the satisfaction. Experts say “The more you learn about your own body’s responses, the more adept you’ll be at quickly reaching orgasm,” says sexologist Yvonne K. Fulbright, PhD, author of Sex With Your Ex. We asked experts for their best big O tactics. Used individually or all together, they will help you reach your orgasmic goals.
Getting in the Zone
With women, an orgasm often hinges on what’s going on in our heads. Of course, what gets one woman into that preferred mental space may not work for another gal, so it’s best to figure out what you need to feel your sexiest. To know what turns you on and keeps you turned on will help in many ways.
Put away your cell phone away far from reach. Eliminate all your stressful thoughts as much as possible. Be as fully present in the moment as you can be, and see what happens.”
For gals who have trouble feeling comfortable during sex or letting yourself go, some one-on-one loving will heighten your comfort level and better explore what turns you on, at your desired pace.
Masturbation is pleasurable research into what you like and what really turns you on. Plus, you don’t have to worry about someone else’s feelings or needs while you’re figuring out your own. Now lie back, think of something sexy, and let your fingers explore within.
Many women respond to having their partner go down on them, although for beginners feeling at ease during oral sex may not come easily. Some women don’t feel comfortable receiving oral sex because of insecurities about their genitals, mainly about how they smell and how they may taste like. If you’re the one engaging oral pleasure, show your partner just how into it you are by touching her genitals and smelling, kissing, tasting your finger. You should also communicate with your lover with suggestions based on preference (nice and slow? hard and fast?) whichever works best for her. Much practice may be needed to build that sexual tension which soon will send her into overdrive. If you’re the one on the receiving end, make suggestions, perhaps you prefer it with the lights off and slow grooved music. Communicate with your lover to create your idealistic surroundings so that you feel comfortable and ready to cum.
Having a hard time cumin during sex? Your not alone. Many studies show that around 70 percent of women are unable to orgasm through intercourse alone. 30 percent find ways to stimulate the clitoris, manually or to be joined with a sex toy. By popular vote worldwide the best positions are Doggy-Style and the Missionary, especially if the woman is on top and grinds against her lover’s pelvis. Add more vibrating pleasure with a vibrating cock ring (see Tor II ) to help deliver a penetrative orgasm.
Anal sex has a real explosive effect for some women, when exercised with care and patience and proper lube, it sends a sensational feeling far beyond the imagination. Now on the other hand, we acknowledge that anal sex is not for everyone but a lubed finger up the rear during oral sex can be well-received too.